Two Essential Keys to Making Your Divorce Mediation Work

Posted on : April 13, 2017
California Mediation Attorney

Mediation is an excellent way to help you through the process of divorce quickly. Added benefits include less cost and stress than traditional litigation. However, for mediation to be successful, it’s important to understand a few things about mediation. Here are two simple but essential keys to making your divorce mediation work.

1. Listen to Your Ex-Spouse & Try to Understand Them

If you and your spouse are at odds with each other or not speaking, mediation is going to be difficult. In order for a successful mediation and for you and your ex-spouse to agree on each aspect of your divorce, you have to listen. You must give them the opportunity to communicate their feelings and ideas about issues like child custody, support, and property division.


Also, it’s important that you try to understand where they’re coming from and what their goals are. You want to know how they are both similar and different from your goals. Ultimately, you want to reach mutually beneficial compromises on critical divorce issues.

2. Don’t Close Yourself Off to Compromise

Chances are, in your mediation, you will need to compromise with your ex-spouse. Unless they are particularly agreeable, you may not get every thing you desire in your divorce. Know ahead of time what issues you’re willing to meet in the middle on, what issues you’re comfortable with concession on, and what issues are most important to you and you’re less willing to accept alternatives for. However, realize that you’ll likely be asked to compromise on more than one issue and don’t close yourself off to the idea of compromise in any particular area.


Knowing what’s more important and less important is crucial, but don’t completely reject offers of compromise until you’ve thoroughly considered them and weighed all options.

When to Contact an Attorney

If you and your ex-spouse wish to use mediation as a tool to collaborate your divorce, you should each have your own attorney representing your best interests. At the Law Offices of Barbara E. McNamara, we can provide you with the information you need to make sound decisions during your mediation and will guide you regarding what is and is not in your best interest legally.


Contact us today to schedule a consultation to learn more about mediation by calling (714) 740-2542.

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