How to Break the News About Your Divorce

Posted on : August 13, 2017
Huntington Beach Divorce Lawyer

For many people, telling friends and family about their upcoming divorce can seem even harder than deciding to get a divorce in the first place. How you talk to the important people in your life is crucial to how they’ll see the situation. Here are some ideas to help you broach the subject with your family and friends so you can begin moving forward with the divorce and starting over.


How to Tell Your Friends


Breaking the news to your individual friends is less difficult than breaking the news to mutual friends. Your own friends are most likely just going to be on your side and often, close friends will mirror your own feelings about the divorce, good or bad.


If you and your spouse are on friendly enough terms, tell your mutual friends about your divorce together. If not, feel free to let mutual friends know that you value their friendship and wish to maintain that, but be sure to protect your own best interests by remaining neutral and never discussing your soon-to-be-ex spouse or the details about the divorce with people who could take that information directly to your spouse.


How to Tell Your Family


While telling friends about your divorce may be difficult, often telling family members — especially in-laws — can be downright unpleasant. When you break the ice to your family members, make sure you don’t:


  • Make critical statements about your spouse. You want to remain neutral and avoid conversations about who did what wrong in the marriage.
  • Appear as though your mind is not made up. You want to be factual and firm about your decision to get a divorce — you’ve thought long and hard about it and your family needs to respect that.
  • Expect in-laws to maintain a relationship with you, even if they were close to you before. Often, in-laws will take the side of their loved one and there’s not much you can do about it. If you do continue your relationship with your in-laws, be neutral and avoid discussing the divorce with them.

Reach Out to a Huntington Beach Divorce Lawyer Today


Well-meaning family and friends will often ask the most important question of all — whether or not you have a divorce lawyer to help you. If you haven’t spoken with a lawyer yet, it’s crucial that you do so as soon as you can. You need someone on your side to protect your rights and interests. Call the Law Office of Barbara E. McNamara today for a consultation at (714) 740-2542.

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